7 of cups is fantasy, a world created in the querant’s head. To me, porn can be a dangerous fantasy. It makes some of the most important human needs – connection, touch, intimacy, sex – into an unachievable cartoon. I’ve seen it deaden people to sex, because nothing can compare. I’m not against porn, categorically, not at all.. I think it needs to be grounded in the realization that it is fantasy.